Al-insān al-kāmil: The complete human being
Ibn Arabi's name for a person who mirrors God without distortion. Such a person can carry enormous authority and hold none of it as private property; whatever comes to them keeps moving and never sticks. The steadiness in that comes from never having confused the gift with the giver, so nothing has to be defended.
ʿUbūdiyya: Servanthood
The Sufis count servanthood as the highest rank a person reaches; the Prophet is called God's servant at the moment he is honored most. Someone who has been handed everything still stands under the one who handed it over. Keeping that clear is what stops a gift from hardening into a claim, and it takes the strain out of holding it.
Fanāʾ: The self's passing away
Fanāʾ names the passing away of a person's sense of being a separate owner. The fear around it is that nothing of you will be left, though what goes is only the habit of standing at the center. Afterward the person is still there, still doing things, just no longer keeping a tally of what belongs to them.
We belong to God, and to Him we return: nothing was ever ours to keep
Muslims say this line from the Quran when someone dies, and Sufis say it about everything else too. It carries the plain fact that nothing was held outright in the first place, so nothing gets taken when it goes back. For a person facing an ending, that makes it a handover rather than a robbery, and the grip loosens on its own.
He is the First and the Last, the Outward and the Inward: nothing stands outside God
A line from the Quran that Sufis come back to constantly, leaving no corner where anything exists on its own, apart from God. Someone who fears that total surrender means being wiped out is meeting what already held them. The ending feels closer to arriving somewhere than to losing something.