Die before you die: the self goes before the body does
Sufis pass this line around as a word of the Prophet. It points to an ending that arrives while a person is still walking around and going to work. The round-the-clock defense of your name, your record, and your side of the story quietly stops, and from outside the days look the same.
Fanāʾ: The self passing away
The term names the falling away of the sense that you are the one in charge. Anyone who has been so absorbed in helping a friend that they forgot themselves for an hour has touched the edge of it. The work still gets done afterward, and the habit of claiming it goes silent.
Baqāʾ: Living on in God
Junayd paired this with fanāʾ. The self drops out, and a life keeps going in its place, with nothing subtracted from ordinary living. You still get up and go to work, and the day feels handed to you rather than built by you.
When I love him I become his hearing and his sight: God works through a person's own hands
The Prophet reported these as God's words about someone He has drawn close. They answer the worry that a borrowed life would leave you hollow or limp. Your eyes stay your eyes and your hands stay your hands, and what moves them comes from deeper than your own wanting.
Tawakkul: Leaning your weight on God
Trust that rests your weight on someone else. Once a person stops steering by their own cleverness, something has to carry the day, and this is what carries it. Ghazali is firm that it keeps your hands busy: plans still get made, work still goes out, and the knot in the stomach loosens.
He loves them and they love Him: God's love comes first
A phrase from the Quran that the Sufis return to constantly, and the order inside it does the work. Anyone who feels they must earn their place will treat their own love as the starting point. Whatever warmth you have came to you already lit, and knowing that, a person stops trying to buy what was given.