Proverbs 20:16 · World English Bible
Proverbs 20:16 Meaning Take the Garment of One Who Puts
Take the garment of one who puts up collateral for a stranger; and hold him in pledge for a wayward woman.
What does Proverbs 20:16 mean?
The mind entangles itself when it stakes its peace on what it has judged a stranger, binding itself to a figure it first made foreign. To call another a stranger is already the ego's work, for it has decided that this brother stands outside and cannot be trusted, and then it demands a pledge as if safety could be seized by holding something of his hostage.
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The mind entangles itself when it stakes its peace on what it has judged a stranger, binding itself to a figure it first made foreign. To call another a stranger is already the ego's work, for it has decided that this brother stands outside and cannot be trusted, and then it demands a pledge as if safety could be seized by holding something of his hostage. Every such bargain deepens the sense of threat it was meant to relieve.
The correction is to withdraw the projection that made him strange at all. Seen without the verdict, no one is outside and nothing needs to be secured against him, and the mind that grasped for a pledge discovers it was only ever afraid of itself.
Garment: the pledge the mind seizes to feel safe against another, the security it thinks it can take by force from a brother it has already made foreign. Stranger: the brother the mind has judged to stand outside, the figure it first made foreign so it would have something to defend against.
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Live Proverbs 20:16 today
- Think of one person you have filed as not to be trusted and ask whether that file is still open because of something they did or because of how it feels to keep it. Then decide, honestly, which it is.
- Today, drop one small insurance policy with someone you love: the screenshot you kept, the receipt of who owes whom, the thing you hold in reserve for the next argument. Let it go without announcing it.
- When a stranger makes you tense in traffic, in a line, in an email thread from a team you have never met, give them one ordinary human reason for what they did. Not to excuse it, just to stop defending against a person you have invented.
Where am I holding something as security against someone I decided long ago to be afraid of?
The same truth in other traditions
Zen
The teachers keep pointing out that the fence between self and other is painted by the one standing behind it, and the fear of what is outside ends the moment the paint is seen for what it is.
Advaita Vedanta
The teaching is that the one looking and the one being judged are not two, so every wall built for safety is built inside the house it claims to protect.
Stoicism · Epictetus
It is not people who disturb us but our judgments about them, so the pledge we demand as protection is really a hedge against our own opinion.
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