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Proverbs 6:29 · World English Bible

Proverbs 6:29 Meaning So Is He Who Goes

So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife. Whoever touches her will not be unpunished.

What does Proverbs 6:29 mean?

To take what belongs to another is to accept the very belief in lack that made the taking seem necessary, and it is this acceptance, not any deed alone, that troubles the mind. The one who reaches into a neighbor's life for what he thinks he needs has already agreed with the ego that he is empty, and that agreement is the loss of his felt innocence.

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To take what belongs to another is to accept the very belief in lack that made the taking seem necessary, and it is this acceptance, not any deed alone, that troubles the mind. The one who reaches into a neighbor's life for what he thinks he needs has already agreed with the ego that he is empty, and that agreement is the loss of his felt innocence. He is not condemned from without; he has condemned himself within by choosing separation as true.

Yet innocence lost this way is never innocence destroyed, only forgotten, and it waits to be reclaimed the moment the belief is set down. A mind that sees it grasped from lack can release the grasping and remember it was whole all along. The guilt was in the choosing, and the choosing can be unmade.

Neighbour's wife: what seems to belong to another and is coveted from a sense of lack, the object through which the mind agrees it is empty. He that goeth in: the mind that reaches outside itself for completion, believing separation and so forfeiting its own remembered innocence.

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Live Proverbs 6:29 today

  1. When you catch yourself scrolling someone else's life, the house, the job, the relationship, pause before the next swipe and ask what you actually feel short of. Usually the answer is not the thing on the screen.
  2. The next time a friend tells you good news that stings a little, say the congratulations out loud anyway and mean it as far as you can. Their gain took nothing from you.
  3. If you feel the pull to take a shortcut at work, credit that is not yours, a client who is not yours, a line you know is not true, stop for one breath and let the feeling of emptiness just sit there. It will pass without you acting on it.

What do I think I would finally have if I got the thing I keep wanting?

The same truth in other traditions

Tao Te Ching 46

There is no greater misfortune than not knowing when you already have enough. The grasping itself, not the thing grasped, is what impoverishes a person.

Buddhism · the Second Noble Truth

Suffering rises from craving, from the thirst that insists something outside us is missing. The ache is not caused by what we lack but by the belief that we lack it.

Stoicism · Epictetus

He counted it foolish to reach for what belongs to another, since the only things truly ours are our judgments and our choices. Reach outside that circle and you hand your peace to someone else.

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