Tawba: Turning back
Tawba is a turn back toward God. Someone who has been pushing hard in one direction assumes the fix is more push, a better angle, a stronger plan. The turn itself produces nothing you can show anyone, which is why it gets skipped, and yet nothing else moves until it happens. The moment a person faces back, help that was on offer the whole time becomes visible again.
Do not do for yourself what someone else has already done for you: the arranging can stop
Ibn Ata Allah put it that way, and it lands on the person who cannot stop lining up backups. All that arranging feels like responsibility, so letting it go feels reckless. Much of the effort covers ground already covered, and the exhaustion it causes is not fixed by adding another plan. Dropping it brings the relief of putting down a bag you had forgotten you were carrying.
Tawakkul: Trust that leaves the result to God
Al-Ghazali described one stage of it as a small child who never wonders whether the mother is coming and simply calls for her. The person in a rush trusts too, but trusts the arrangement, so the arrangement has to hold or the fear comes straight back. Trust placed further back leaves room for a plan to fail without the person falling apart with it.
Ṭumaʾnīna: Settled calm
Ṭumaʾnīna is the heart settling, and the Quran places it in the remembrance of God. Quiet looks like the opposite of strength when someone is racing, because nothing visible is being produced by it. A frantic person makes poor decisions and cannot hear good advice, while a steady one can do both. The strength here is the plain steadiness of somebody who has stopped shaking.
Rayn: Rust on the heart
Rayn names the film that builds up over a heart, and al-Ghazali kept returning to the picture of a mirror going dull. Refusing a good offer once is a decision a person makes. Refusing it again and again changes what they can see, until the offer no longer registers as an offer. Someone in that state does not feel like a person turning down help; they feel like a person nobody has helped.