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John 20:15 · World English Bible

John 20:15 Meaning Jesus Said to Her

Jesus said to her, “Woman, why are you weeping? Who are you looking for?” She, supposing him to be the gardener, said to him, “Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have laid him, and I will take him away.”

What does John 20:15 mean?

The two questions asked here are the only ones a troubled mind ever needs: why do you weep, and whom do you seek. Grief always answers wrongly, certain that its treasure is a thing that can be carried off and hidden, so it bargains for a corpse and overlooks the living.

From the Christian Psychology reading below.

John 20:15 through 2 lenses

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CHRISTIAN PSYCHOLOGY

Christian Psychology

The two questions asked here are the only ones a troubled mind ever needs: why do you weep, and whom do you seek. Grief always answers wrongly, certain that its treasure is a thing that can be carried off and hidden, so it bargains for a corpse and overlooks the living. To suppose love is the gardener is to see it as a stranger who tends the ground where the dead are kept.

A mind convinced of loss will plan to reclaim a body when what it truly wants is not there to be moved. The one it addresses as a passing laborer is the very presence it mourns. Seeking rightly begins the instant the search turns from the tomb toward the one already speaking.

The gardener: love unrecognized, seen as an ordinary stranger who keeps the place of the dead, because the mind expects nothing more. The body borne away: the belief that what is loved can be lost, stolen, and reclaimed as an object, the error grief makes real to itself.

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SELF-HELP

Self-Help

The question a person keeps asking decides in advance what they are able to recognize when it arrives.

Ask where a body was laid and the mind goes looking for a body, which is why the risen Christ can register as hired help. The primary question sets the search, the search sets what will count as evidence, and the evidence feeds the grief that wrote the question, which asks it again tomorrow.

His question moves her from a where to a who, from something carried off to someone who can answer back. No new evidence arrived; the search term changed, and that was enough. A person who spends years asking what was taken gets handed that answer daily, and walks past whatever is alive and standing near enough to speak.

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Christian Psychology lens

Live John 20:15 today

  1. When you catch yourself refreshing, rechecking, or chasing something today, stop and ask what you actually want underneath it. The answer is usually not the thing you are clicking.
  2. When someone asks you for one thing but their voice is asking for something else, answer the second thing. People rarely say the real question first.
  3. In a stretch of worry, try the two plainest questions: why am I upset, and what am I really looking for. Answer them honestly and the worry usually changes shape.

What am I bargaining hard for that would not actually give me the thing I'm aching for?

The same truth in other traditions

Buddhism · Four Noble Truths

Suffering comes from clinging to what cannot be held. Look closely at what you are grasping for and you often find you wanted something else.

Stoicism · Epictetus

Do not demand that things be as you wish. Wish them as they are, and the bargaining stops.

Sufism · Rumi

What you are aching for is not the thing you keep asking for. The longing itself is pointing somewhere past the object.

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